“Commitment: Does Body Count Matter?” by @Echecrates S5W1

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Ring the alarm!!! NHBi is back for an amazing Season 5. Didn’t we end the last time on a high, and we sure picked up from where we left off.

On the first week of the show this season we had @Echecrates talking on the topic ‘Does Body Count Matter’.

Our guest went straight for the jugular, making a conceptual clarification of what the term body count meant. Something quite necessary because despite the proliferation of the term, not many knew exactly what it meant with many assuming it referred to the number of times one has had sex. But like our guest made it clear, body count refers to the number of individuals a person has had sex with. Apparently taking his discussion from a male point of view, @Echecrates asks, ‘Does HER body count matter?’ (Caps are mine) and for him the answer is both a Yes, and a No.

“A woman’s body count might sometimes serve as the best indicator of her character and whether u can trust her judgment. A high body count can also serve as an indicator of low self esteem. She sleeps with men because she feels like that’s the only way she can keep them. She uses her body as a bargaining chip to buy loyalty. She might no longer be about that life but it’s important to understand the reasons for her high number in order to gauge her mentality.”

What isn’t in any code book however is what exact figure constitutes a high number for a body count. Are there any studies that suggest Nigerians are having more sex and more partners today than they did 30 years ago? How can we all arrive at an agreement on what constitutes a high number for the body count for an individual? Because for some even 4 is a high number. So what we might never be able to all agree on is on what is high or what is low. But then again, the question is ‘Does Body Count Matter?’ Meaning it is not a question of ‘Does a high body count matter?’ If you consider that there are many men who would not have anything to do with a virgin. Eventually, everything boils down to preferences. Some want experience, and don’t care how or where you got it. Others don’t want you with a sexually active past that leaves a trail like Gulliver’s travel. For the insecurity it brings? The baggage it might come along with? Women are like trophies to men. And vice versa. Take it or leave. And no one wants to walk around knowing his or her crown jewel was once the spitting bowl of the yard. So don’t ask, right? Let the past be in the past. That’s easier said than done. Because when you go out often with your missus and run into her 5th ex, and another whom ‘We didn’t exactly date, we just had something going on’ you might begin to wonder if your boss or your randy cousin hasn’t perhaps eaten a slice of your cake.

Our guest had this to say to women who might be perceived as having a high body count:

“Just don’t put your man in a position
where he’s interacting with other men
who’ve been with u without being aware of it Men hate getting blind sided like that. Don’t let me play FIFA with a man who knows how your pussy tastes. If u think there’s the slightest possibility your man might come into contact with a body from your past. Let homie know so he’s prepared. Your man finding out about a body from your past from outside sources rather than from u hurts like hell. Because he starts to question every other thing u have ever told him.”

The topic this week generated a lot of buzz. And it wasn’t just because #NHBi had been missed over the break. With many seeing the topic taken from a mans perspective and not allowing women talk about the case of a man having a high body count too, I mean, why would men be the ones who can freely sow their wild oats and women can’t, the case for a rebuttal was strongly made, and perhaps we might just see that on the next episode of the show. Meanwhile, here are some tweets that made the rounds during the show.

Don’t miss out on another exciting episode this week and the week after that. You just got your Wednesdays back!

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