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“Why Should My Body Count Matter To My Man?” by @Sugabelly #NHBi Review S5W3

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If last week on the show was amazing, we decided to turn it up a notch with the rebuttal from a female perspective on the discussion from last week. And who else could we have had than the candid and very opinionated @Sugabelly talking on the topic ‘Why Should my body count matter to my man?’

Our guest was quick to get the ground running and took no prisoners in classic No Holds Barred style.

‘So far, I’ve fucked thirteen men. This apparently, is my “body count”. To some men, this is an intolerably high number of foreign penises that automatically disqualifies me as “wifey” material. To me, all it really means is that I like sex. And I’m not alone. We didn’t get to seven billion people without a whole lot of fucking. Men want to have sex with as many women as they like, but also want the women they love to remain virginal and pure in their eyes. This association of sex and filth is problematic as fuck. The very idea that women are somehow “tainted” by other men is bullshit. This idea is the core of Patriarchy – a system set up to liberate men from moral responsibility by placing all the burden on women. By transferring all the religious and social guilt about sexual chastity to women, men free themselves to indulge their sexual urges. And assuage their collective conscience of guilt by policing the sexual behaviour of women. Pussy is not a commodity. Too many men act like they are buying fruit at a market, and if it gets touched too many times, it goes bad. How disturbed a man is by your body count is directly proportional to how insecure he is that you know his sexual prowess ain’t shit. Especially wack men like virgins because they have no frame of reference. There’s no good or bad sex because she doesn’t know any better. Your girl is a virgin, so your dick game becomes the Matrix Nothing there but when you’re inside what do you see? Bomb sex everywhere. IMHO More women should care about their man’s body count. This is the far more important figure. If you men are getting in so much practice fucking all your “hoes”, how come so many women are still enduring bad sex? Men who have fucked half the block and still can’t make you cum aren’t worth the effort it takes to drop your panties. Sometimes it’s about power. A childish urge to possess something no one else has possessed, or that as few people as possible possess. Some men tie a woman’s sexuality to the prospect of their future children. Men feel somehow, that sexual experimentation and motherhood are incompatible. A whore cannot be a mother. A mother must be a saint. No one wants to think about their mother sucking dick. This is why the commonest barbs used to police women’s sexual freedoms often
remind them to think of their future role as mothers. Then there’s also the genetic impulse to avoid disease. A hundred years ago, many sexually transmitted disease were incurable. Because many STDs also affect a developing fetus either during pregnancy or birth a woman’s chance of having STDs became a huge factor. Ergo, it was women who carried the true risk of contaminating one’s innocent future offspring with the consequences of her sluttiness…Rather than worrying about how many guys have eaten your girl out, worry about whether or not she’s a sociopath.
If your girl is “loose” it’s not because she fucks a lot. Vaginas were designed to hold a ten pound baby. Your microdick is not her fault”

Sugabelly dropped it and dropped it like it was sizzling hot. And there is no gainsaying the fact that she did raise valid points. In the eternal battle between the sexes, how long are we going to remain hypocritical, can’t we just agree what is good for the goose is good for the gander? Women don’t have sex with themselves. It takes two to tango. For every body count a woman racks, it counts two on the side of her partner. The men folk are know to be the most outgoing sexually, women are generally more conservative, waiting to be wooed and seduced by the woman. And isn’t it often said that men are polygamous in nature? So if men can go about looking for the next body to conquer, why do women have to take the whack for an attitude and pattern that has been enforced for generations? The debate wouldn’t end here. In sitting rooms and bars, and in quite corners in a house party, its a discussion that is bound to rage on.

There is right and wrong. And there is what society accepts, and what it has openly rejected. But what society has accepted doesn’t always mean what is necessarily in the right. And the true path of development is in talking about these things and constantly evolving attitudes and thought process to the point where we reach the zenith of social development as a people.

Here are some of the comments sent in from participants during the show. Don’t forget to join us again for another exciting episode. Have a blessed week.

“Commitment: Does Body Count Matter?” by @Echecrates S5W1

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Ring the alarm!!! NHBi is back for an amazing Season 5. Didn’t we end the last time on a high, and we sure picked up from where we left off.

On the first week of the show this season we had @Echecrates talking on the topic ‘Does Body Count Matter’.

Our guest went straight for the jugular, making a conceptual clarification of what the term body count meant. Something quite necessary because despite the proliferation of the term, not many knew exactly what it meant with many assuming it referred to the number of times one has had sex. But like our guest made it clear, body count refers to the number of individuals a person has had sex with. Apparently taking his discussion from a male point of view, @Echecrates asks, ‘Does HER body count matter?’ (Caps are mine) and for him the answer is both a Yes, and a No.

“A woman’s body count might sometimes serve as the best indicator of her character and whether u can trust her judgment. A high body count can also serve as an indicator of low self esteem. She sleeps with men because she feels like that’s the only way she can keep them. She uses her body as a bargaining chip to buy loyalty. She might no longer be about that life but it’s important to understand the reasons for her high number in order to gauge her mentality.”

What isn’t in any code book however is what exact figure constitutes a high number for a body count. Are there any studies that suggest Nigerians are having more sex and more partners today than they did 30 years ago? How can we all arrive at an agreement on what constitutes a high number for the body count for an individual? Because for some even 4 is a high number. So what we might never be able to all agree on is on what is high or what is low. But then again, the question is ‘Does Body Count Matter?’ Meaning it is not a question of ‘Does a high body count matter?’ If you consider that there are many men who would not have anything to do with a virgin. Eventually, everything boils down to preferences. Some want experience, and don’t care how or where you got it. Others don’t want you with a sexually active past that leaves a trail like Gulliver’s travel. For the insecurity it brings? The baggage it might come along with? Women are like trophies to men. And vice versa. Take it or leave. And no one wants to walk around knowing his or her crown jewel was once the spitting bowl of the yard. So don’t ask, right? Let the past be in the past. That’s easier said than done. Because when you go out often with your missus and run into her 5th ex, and another whom ‘We didn’t exactly date, we just had something going on’ you might begin to wonder if your boss or your randy cousin hasn’t perhaps eaten a slice of your cake.

Our guest had this to say to women who might be perceived as having a high body count:

“Just don’t put your man in a position
where he’s interacting with other men
who’ve been with u without being aware of it Men hate getting blind sided like that. Don’t let me play FIFA with a man who knows how your pussy tastes. If u think there’s the slightest possibility your man might come into contact with a body from your past. Let homie know so he’s prepared. Your man finding out about a body from your past from outside sources rather than from u hurts like hell. Because he starts to question every other thing u have ever told him.”

The topic this week generated a lot of buzz. And it wasn’t just because #NHBi had been missed over the break. With many seeing the topic taken from a mans perspective and not allowing women talk about the case of a man having a high body count too, I mean, why would men be the ones who can freely sow their wild oats and women can’t, the case for a rebuttal was strongly made, and perhaps we might just see that on the next episode of the show. Meanwhile, here are some tweets that made the rounds during the show.

Don’t miss out on another exciting episode this week and the week after that. You just got your Wednesdays back!