I cross my heart and wish to die if I’m not honest about what next I’m about to say: #NHBi time is one I look forward to from the end of one show, up on to the next.
Welcome guys, to this weeks review of the show.
This week we had Dami Cole @dami_cole, talking on the topic “How honest should I be With My Partner?” Whether we care to admit it or not, we have at some time been faced with how much of the truth we should tell, or if we should at all or completely just hoard information from our better half. Whatever course of action people take, there is usually some justification for it ‘You can’t handle the truth’ ‘I didn’t want to hurt you.’ ‘I was afraid you would think me cheap.’ ‘The past is in the past.’ Ok, which other cliches have you good folks used before?
Our guest got off by telling the story of a couple he chose to call Phillip and Rita, who had been dating for 2 years, were in different universities but somehow managed to make it work, because ‘the trust was there.’ Philip opens up to Rita one day on cheating on Rita with a female friend of his, this leaves Rita devastated and it eventually leads to a break up. Years later, Philip meets another girl, starts another relationship but finds it difficult on opening up on the cause of break up in his previous relationship. If he does, would she trust him? Would she have it somewhere at the back of her mind that he could do same again? Would it lead to complications with his present girl?
While you are answering on behalf of Philip, another story.
This one is about Toyin who has been married for 3 years, has a child but still can’t bring herself to tell her husband that she once had an abortion. The said abortion happened when she was 19.
Dami asks “the question is, is it necessary to tell her husband?”
I have people tell me “What you don’t know can’t kill you” but truthfully, in a relationship its beta to know to knw wat can ‘kill u’ #NHBi
— dami|NationBuilder (@Dami_Cole) March 26, 2014
At least to prevent it from doing so…Half-honesty or delayed honesty isn’t fair to partners cos that is what breeds distrust. Its better all things are bared out at the onset of relationships as that will be the best time to actually accept/reject the party. Finally, It is better you are the one telling than your partner finding out!” Don’t we all agree? The truth has no substitute. And we all want to be dealt with honestly. Being honest means, putting your cards out on the table. Sometimes its not about what transpired in previous relationships, sometimes it is about your earnings, or a double lifestyle. Half truth or selective honesty have a way of bouncing back at us. And then we wish we had been open from the on set. People should love you for you really are, and the more you hide some part of you, the less there is of you there is to be accepted and loved. When you bare it all, at least that way the other party knows exactly what he or she is getting into. Don’t they say that honesty is the best policy? Here are some of the interactions from participants on the show.
Ask yourself; do you REALLY want to know? Can you handle the Truth???! #nhbi
— ‘Deji Asiru-Balogun (@WilDeji) March 26, 2014
I concur with the honestly thingy. But honestly again.We know that not everything can be said. Sometimes you let by gones be by gones.#NHBi
— DASHE CHALYA (@dashechalya) March 26, 2014
I personally believe in complete honesty in dating. My distrust starts when I’m being honest and I clearly sense she’s hiding from me #NHBi
— Zuma (@spacyzuma) March 26, 2014
The problem is, if the issue doesn’t concern your partner, there is no point mentioning it. #NHBi
— Ms ‘Fola (@SheCrownLita) March 26, 2014
The truth is on a need to know basis. #NHBi
— Diva Leems Mama ♡♥ (@toksyk27) March 26, 2014