Hello Folks, last week on #NHBi, we opened a discussion on age and relationships, with the topic Does Age Matter? Last week we had the female perspective with Freda, @PinkRubbiez and like promised, the second part held this week with us discussing from the male point of view with Tony Atambi, @TonyAtambi.
Welcome to the review of yet an exciting episode of everyone’s favourite tweet show, #NHBi.
Our guest started by saying that there are no water tight rules regarding age and relationships. In his words, “As a matter of personal belief, I think maturity precedes age. So I respect maturity. Then Age.”
Tony also said he loves to think of relationships as an art, which means that it can be learnt, worked on and mastered. Which then goes on to mean that no matter how young a man may be, if he has mastered the art, one can go ahead and have great relationships, regardless of the age factor. Tony told a personal story where he hit it off greatly with a girl, they started dating and he soon discovered that she was 4 years older than him. He says, he found it hard to deal with and began taking note of the sort of guys that were asking her out and insecurity crept in. To make it worse, his friends kept telling him to find a girl that ‘was his size’.
“Then I made up my mind to ‘play’ the man. I decided I was going to man up and handle my relationship rather than get intimidated…The major thing I learnt from that relationship is that, the stakes are really HIGH, when in a relationship with a lady older, as a guy.”
What exactly makes the stakes high? Tony puts them as 1.) Preparedness. 2.) Respect. and 3.) Finances.
How prepared are you with dealing with being in a relationship? Because as he says “…the problem with being unprepared is that very soon, she’ll go from being your ‘babe’ to your ‘Mom'”
How much does she respect you? How much does she submit to you as the captain of the relationship?
“There’s a reason God said wives ‘Respect or submit to your husband’. Women are built to love. But respect? She has to learn! But of course, you can ONLY become the man you made your woman see. So you might want to make her
see correctly.”
On finances, “Every sane guy wants to be the ‘provider’, the man ‘taking the lead’. So if he has that CAPACITY, age wouldn’t real be an issue.”
Like always, participants weighed in on the discussion. While you can always follow up by searching for the hashtag #NHBi and chipping in a comment or two on twitter or here on the comments box, here are some of the interesting comments we had on the night.
@EkyShirley: Some ladies have issues with respect as a whole, not just with younger guys. To these ones, please stick to the traditional.
@MAW3DO: I almost dated a friend till I realised the age difference between us was above 3 years(he’s younger). He didn’t care. I did.
@madamedemadame: Some women won’t date or marry a younger man simply because God created Adam before he created Eve.
@AK_Ibe: I think its second nature for babes to want to play mum, whether she’s older or not.
@emma_dele: I’ve always been attracted to ladies of same age bracket or older. I find them more romantic and mature.
That’s all on this weeks review of the show, join us, and tell a friend to tell a friend, next week, Wednesday 9pm(Nigerian time) by following the hashtag #NHBi. Have a wonderful week people. Stay blessed.
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